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Feb 19, 2025
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I’m a 28 year old virgin (not for religious reasons, just hasn’t happened yet). Do I have to disclose to my future partner? Or is it better to keep it to myself?

I have a very firm rule not to write about sex until after my father dies. May he have a very long, healthy and productive life but we are behind the paywall and I’ve been listening to that enchanting songstress Lucy Dacus in a loop so your question feels very important to me today.

Where to even start? Virginity is fake. It’s a myth that destroys lives. Everybody knows this right? Are they teaching this in schools yet? Virginity is 100% a social construct with absolutely no biological reality.

It’s kind of nuts when you think about it actually.

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